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So What Is Love?

By February 14, 2018January 27th, 2023No Comments
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What is love? Foreigner asked this question in the song, I Want to Know What Love Is.

The movie, Love Story, said that love means never having to say you’re sorry. Really?

In another song by the Doors, the lyrics are: Hello, I love you, won’t you tell me your name? Hmm.

According to Google, one of the ten most searched questions is “What is Love?”

The SciShow guys did a whole video on the scientific brain evidence of love. Research shows that when someone is experiencing new love, the brain lights up like it’s on cocaine.

While this video is interesting, it doesn’t define love.

You and I talk about love a lot, such as the love for or of:

Your dog
A new haircut
Chocolate (hey, it’s Valentine’s Day. Shameless plug ?)
Dinner out
Alma Mater
Sports team
A parent for a child
A husband and wife
Your best friend
A caregiver for their patient
Video Games

Ask Someone

You get the idea. But ask someone to define love and you get some interesting answers.

While you and I might not be able to give a solid, dictionary-worthy definition of love, we crave it. Every person needs to know they are valued and appreciated for who they are. It’s a basic human need.

On this Valentine’s Day, whether you are single, in a relationship, married, or mourning the loss of your special someone, may you discover the deepest love possible—God’s love for you. This is extravagant love.

This is how God showed his love for us: God sent his only Son into the world so we might live through him. This is the kind of love we are talking about—not that we once upon a time loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to clear away our sins and the damage they’ve done to our relationship with God.

Real Love

Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
Love doesn’t strut,
Doesn’t have a swelled head,
Doesn’t force itself on others,
Isn’t always “me first,”
Doesn’t fly off the handle,
Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.
Love never dies.

This is a love worth finding and giving.

However you choose to celebrate Valentine’s Day, may you find a way to show extravagant love to others.

If your marriage is hurting, please reach out. I promise to listen without judgment and help you take the next step.


  • Kirsten D Samuel

    I empower Christian wives to discover they are seen, loved, and heard. These women find the freedom to be who they are beyond their partner’s struggles, and find hope that there is a life worth living.

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