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I replied calmly. On the outside. When Dave told me what was going on, I heard myself say, "I think we need help." Measured. […]

All morning, Susan went back and forth about whether to cancel her coffee date with Mary. She and Mary met often, though Mary usually […]

I didn't handle it well. When Dave told me what was going on, I replied calmly. On the outside. Inside, I was screaming. The […]

Learning how to talk to your kids about separation after betrayal may be the hardest conversation you face in this season. You are not […]

Shirley stared out the window, her cup of tea growing cold on the table. Tears wandered over her cheeks. A week had passed since […]

She thought she was getting the flu. Three days after she found out, her body started doing things she couldn't explain. She couldn't keep […]

The pastor said it like it was simple. She sat in the third row, same seat she had occupied for fourteen years. Her hands […]

She had been a Sunday school teacher for eleven years. She knew her Bible. Could find Lamentations without the table of contents, had memorized […]

She had written it on a notepad and torn it up three times. The question wasn't new. It had been living in her chest […]

Amy loves Jesus. As she relayed her story to me, I heard her deep trust and love for God. Soul-deep faith. The kind that […]

Sandy’s downcast eyes told me more than her words could. “I’m so angry.” Life had dealt Sandy several heavy blows. When Life Keeps Hitting […]

I love watching fireworks. Bright bursts against a dark sky. Color. Sound. Wonder. For a few moments, everything else fades. You look up. Your […]

It’s two weeks until Christmas. If that sent your heart racing a little, take a breath with me. Just for a moment, slip your […]

When Betrayal and Calling Collide: Finding God’s Purpose in the Pain “I don’t understand how this could possibly fit into God’s plan for my […]

I’m An Open Book…But What About My Broken Heart? I hear women say this all the time: “I’m an open book.” On the surface, […]

Sandra hadn’t expected that ordinary Tuesday morning to turn her world upside down. A casual glance at her husband’s laptop revealed something she never […]

“I just want to get to the point where I don’t think about what he did anymore.” Perhaps you resonate with this longing. When […]

As a child, I’d anticipate a fun activity and often couldn’t sleep. But then something always seemed to go wrong—the car broke down, the […]

Sheila (*not her real name) sat, anxiety creeping to a new high. Every day she prayed and watched for any slip-up on Todd’s part. […]

"We are only what we are in the dark; all the rest is reputation. What God looks at is what we are in the […]

Dawn sat on her bed, her fingers twisting the tissue in her lap. Her eyes brimmed with tears, a mixture of anger, exhaustion, and […]

Designing Your Better Life (Even If He Doesn’t Change) She sits across from me, weary and heartbroken. “I just want him to stop looking […]

Emily sat on the floor of her bedroom closet, knees pulled tight to her chest, a tear-streaked journal open in her lap. “I don’t […]

Audrey (not her real name) felt stuck. How could she find freedom through forgiveness when she wasn't ready to forgive? No matter how much […]

When Dave and I married, we thought we were pretty smart and mature enough to build a healthy home.  Looking back, I can see […]

The day I discovered the truth, my stomach dropped. Listening to him stumble through the words to tell me about his betrayal, I didn’t […]

Heart pounding, mouth dry, hands sweating, Beth faded into the shadows. Glancing down, she brushed unseen dust from her jeans and tugged on her […]

Maya Angelou said, “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” When it comes to betrayal […]

For me, the most challenging part of betrayal trauma recovery was the spiritual crisis. It was unexpected—these dark moments void of hope and peace, […]

Betrayal recovery is tricky business. Just when you believe you’ve made progress, something trips you. It could be small or large—doesn’t matter. You find […]

What kind of love keeps you married for 70 years? In a world of quick exits, I’ve observed three couples married for at least […]

They slid into the booth in my direct sight. He eased her coat from her thin shoulders while she gave him a Duchenne smile […]

Nine months or so into our recovery from betrayal trauma and depression, the process felt muddy. Never-ending. The hope from the beginning dimmed. We […]

You and I have explored many topics about getting through the initial betrayal discovery and crisis. When you’re in those first moments where you […]

Benjamin Franklin quipped: “Watch the little things; a small leak will sink a great ship.” As Dave and I worked through the betrayal trauma […]