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She thought she was getting the flu. Three days after she found out, her body started doing things she couldn't explain. She couldn't keep […]

One of the most devastating side effects of betrayal trauma is how easily we can start bullying ourselves. Have you noticed it? That inner […]

I’m An Open Book…But What About My Broken Heart? I hear women say this all the time: “I’m an open book.” On the surface, […]

Sheila (*not her real name) sat, anxiety creeping to a new high. Every day she prayed and watched for any slip-up on Todd’s part. […]

Maya Angelou said, “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” When it comes to betrayal […]

For me, the most challenging part of betrayal trauma recovery was the spiritual crisis. It was unexpected—these dark moments void of hope and peace, […]

Nine months or so into our recovery from betrayal trauma and depression, the process felt muddy. Never-ending. The hope from the beginning dimmed. We […]

You and I have explored many topics about getting through the initial betrayal discovery and crisis. When you’re in those first moments where you […]

This Thanksgiving, as you prepare, travel, enjoy delicious foods, laugh, cry, please find time to nurture your soul with gratitude. Even if you are […]

Voices echoed. The wait staff scurried with their chores. The staff opened the windows because of the oppressive desert heat, attempting to catch any […]

Janet* sobbed. Overwhelmed by fear, pain, remorse, and inadequacy, she choked on her next words, “What’s wrong with me?” For the next several moments, […]

So many questions bombard the wife of a man struggling with porn’s grip on his mind, body, and soul. How do you find the […]

Who wants to admit their life is a mess? Discovering weaknesses in yourself never feels good. I stood at the door, overwhelmed by boxes, […]

Recently, I met with a new coach. From experience, I get out of these coaching sessions what I put into them. I knew this […]

Dr. Brene Brown researched 12 shame categories that are the most familiar in the human experience. She identified these categories as: appearance and body […]

It all started several years ago, when my husband embarked on a whirlwind of work-related travels. Amid his new lifestyle, too often, he found […]

“If only we could go back to the way things were.” “If only I lost the baby weight more quickly.” “If only he didn’t […]

Adventures. Sometimes, we choose them; sometimes, they choose us. Over the holiday, Dave and I had the opportunity to work a southern Caribbean cruise […]

Whatever you’re facing, the Bible has something to say about it.  How do you respond to that statement?  Recently, I received a free hardcover […]

“As a Christian, I shouldn’t have to deal with pain like I feel after learning about my husband’s betrayal.” Have you felt this way […]

I’m listening to Christine Caine’s Unashamed in the audiobook version. I love hearing the Australian accent—it makes me smile. Caine’s story about identifying our […]

Erica put Lizzie down for her nap, careful not to wake her. Lately, it seemed like Lizzie wouldn’t sleep unless she were being held. […]

Emma pushed aside the images she’d discovered two months after her discovery. But she struggled to conquer her fears. She noticed a weird rash […]

She did it again! How many times do we have to go around this circle? Trish fumed. No matter how many discussions they had […]

“I can’t change even if I wanted to.” How would you respond to that statement? What is your initial reaction? When I saw this […]

Have you ever felt like you were the fly on the wall observing yourself in a room full of people? Maybe you noticed the […]

Amy couldn’t shake the underlying malaise that overshadowed her days. Would she ever recover from the shock of Ted’s porn use? With the holiday […]

Who are you? A woman A wife An ex-wife A mom Single woman CEO President Daughter Best-friend to Administrator Teacher Nurse The list goes […]

I made an unexpected discovery when in trauma recovery about how to grieve well. I knew I felt anger, pain, disbelief, loss, separation from […]

I’ll never forget these words, “You can cry all you want.” This gift came from a dear friend right after Dave’s admission of his […]

Freedom! The Israelites, under the oppressive thumb of Pharaoh, longed for freedom. William Wallace shouted, “Freedom!” just moments before his execution. The South Africans […]

How do you process the pain of betrayal from your husband’s porn usage or addiction? Such a great question! Most people wouldn’t choose deep, […]

In the United States of America, we celebrate Memorial Day each year on the last Monday in May. Initially created to remember the sacrifice […]

Over the last week, life got hard. That’s the best way I can express it. I felt adrift, thrown off-kilter, and questioned many beliefs. […]

I’ll never forget the physical impact when my husband revealed his secret porn addiction. My knees buckled, and I collapsed on the side of […]