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All morning, Susan went back and forth about whether to cancel her coffee date with Mary. She and Mary met often, though Mary usually […]

I didn't handle it well. When Dave told me what was going on, I replied calmly. On the outside. Inside, I was screaming. The […]

Learning how to talk to your kids about separation after betrayal may be the hardest conversation you face in this season. You are not […]

Shirley stared out the window, her cup of tea growing cold on the table. Tears wandered over her cheeks. A week had passed since […]

Coaching vs Therapy for Betrayal: How to Know What Kind of Help You Need You took a risk and told your best friend the […]

When leaving a marriage because of p*rn makes you question God's heart for you Sheila paused. Barely lifting her eyes, she whispered, “Does God […]

Sandra hadn’t expected that ordinary Tuesday morning to turn her world upside down. A casual glance at her husband’s laptop revealed something she never […]

As a child, I’d anticipate a fun activity and often couldn’t sleep. But then something always seemed to go wrong—the car broke down, the […]

The day I discovered the truth, my stomach dropped. Listening to him stumble through the words to tell me about his betrayal, I didn’t […]

Heart pounding, mouth dry, hands sweating, Beth faded into the shadows. Glancing down, she brushed unseen dust from her jeans and tugged on her […]

They slid into the booth in my direct sight. He eased her coat from her thin shoulders while she gave him a Duchenne smile […]

Nine months or so into our recovery from betrayal trauma and depression, the process felt muddy. Never-ending. The hope from the beginning dimmed. We […]

Why won’t he change? Betrayal recovery is hard enough. But when your partner seems disinterested in leaving behind destructive behaviors like watching porn, you […]

Voices echoed. The wait staff scurried with their chores. The staff opened the windows because of the oppressive desert heat, attempting to catch any […]

Zara wondered what Zeke wanted. It had been years since they’d talked. After Zeke and Char’s wedding, they’d moved to the next town. Neither […]

Have you ever had an internal imaginary argument with someone? Maybe it was after a highly emotional confrontation. Perhaps it was with your boss […]

What if he never stops looking at porn? A haunting question. One that causes soul anguish for the wife whose husband struggles with porn. […]

Belle sat stunned. “Belle, you have to believe me. I promise it’ll never happen again! You’ve got to believe me. Please. Belle?” She couldn’t […]

Why do well-written sitcoms make us laugh? Shows like Seinfeld, Everybody Loves Raymond, and Home Improvement exaggerate real-life stories. Kaylee Gadepalli, in her March […]

Can you ever feel safe again? When you discover your partner’s struggle with porn, you lose your sense of security. Part of that damage […]

Janet* sobbed. Overwhelmed by fear, pain, remorse, and inadequacy, she choked on her next words, “What’s wrong with me?” For the next several moments, […]

When your heart hurts, you’ll do almost anything to stop the pain so you may not recognize a few hazards. The first time I […]

I have a confession to make. As a human, I’m not always empathetic or emotionally attuned to others. 😢😳 Identifying with the emotions of […]

When was the last time you whispered something in another person’s ear that you didn’t want anyone else to hear? Secrets. We all have […]

Mynah birds are social, mate-for-life, mimickers, and chatty, especially at dawn or dusk. They interact well with humans and make great pets, especially the […]

Dr. Brene Brown researched 12 shame categories that are the most familiar in the human experience. She identified these categories as: appearance and body […]

Many women, just like you, ask questions about addiction recovery when their husbands struggle with porn. Or maybe you classify them as your beliefs. […]

“If only we could go back to the way things were.” “If only I lost the baby weight more quickly.” “If only he didn’t […]

Several years ago, I heard Patsy Clairmont speak. Her humor, liveliness, and unique storytelling immediately captured my attention. As soon as possible, I purchased […]

Growing up, my grandmother talked about how the days flew by. I thought she was nuts, maybe losing her mind. Every hour seemed to […]

Whatever you’re facing, the Bible has something to say about it.  How do you respond to that statement?  Recently, I received a free hardcover […]

Many women tell me they wrestle with the fear that their marriage will never overcome the damage caused by their husband’s porn struggles. It […]

Betrayal trauma can be one of the most devastating and challenging experiences one can face. Dr. Sheri Keffer defines betrayal trauma as the act […]

Discovering your spouse's porn addiction can be a painful, confusing, and challenging experience. Helen’s email brought tears to my eyes. “I can’t breathe. How […]

I lost track of time. My next appointment started in 30 minutes. On a good day, the trip took 28 minutes. Quickly, I grabbed […]