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26 Things I Wish I Knew When I Was a Young Mom

By March 16, 2016May 7th, 20212 Comments

My dad used to say, “Too soon stupid, too late smart.” There’s truth in that.

Looking back, there are some things I know now (too late smart) that I wish I knew when I was a young mom (too soon stupid). Life is our best teacher for some of these things, because you and I learn best through experience, often called “the school of hard knocks.”

Yet if I’d taken the time to listen to others who were just a bit further down this Life road, I would have learned:

  • People are more important than things. Always.
  • There’s very little that is major.
  • Failure = learning and growth.
  • Worry less. Laugh more. A lot more.
  • Always look through the lens of wide-eyed wonder.
  • Mud pies, wiggly worms, and water from the hose aren’t as harmful as advertised.
  • A clean house doesn’t tell any more about me than that I know how to clean (or have a great cleaning lady).
  • Kids have free will just like you do and they exercise it regularly just like you do.
  • The stuff won’t make you happy. It’s just stuff.
  • Work hard but know when to play harder.
  • Your legacy is more than money, prestige, or a “name,” and can be redefined multiple times as needed.
  • One or two trustworthy, truth-telling friends are beyond valuation.
  • Authenticity beats perfection.
  • “Take time to smell the roses” is more than a catchy phrase, it helps keep other stuff in perspective.
  • Time in nature restores your soul, mind, and creativity—tap into this regularly.
  • Live without regret.
  • Doing less accomplishes more.
  • Joy and happiness are not synonymous.
  • Some rules aren’t meant to be broken. The lifelong consequences aren’t worth it.
  • Playing it safe isn’t always safe.
  • Just make the decision and move forward. Failure is better than standing still.
  • Be generous, always.
  • Say “I love you” and “please forgive me” more often than you think you should.
  • Practice gratefulness instead of criticism.
  • What you do with failure speaks louder than that failure.
  • Success reveals your true character.

So, on this day of reflecting, there is hope.

Learning is muscle development. Each day you and I practice the above lessons, we get stronger. When we apply wonder to every day we are even more on the lookout for these lessons.

Life is extra-ordinary. Never lose your wonder.

Years ago, Robert Fulghum, wrote a credo entitled All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten. It became a New York Times #1 Bestseller that reminded us that the most basic things in life are important.


I encourage you today to look at these basic things. How many of them have you learned and put into practice?  Like you, today I needed to remember that the basic things are most important.

Capture the extra-ordinary in the ordinary today.

  • Kirsten D Samuel

    Passionately pointing others to God’s redeeming grace, I empower women to heal their broken hearts, regain their confidence, and create a healthy path forward.