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26 Things I Wish I Knew When I Was a Young Mom

By March 16, 2016May 7th, 20212 Comments

My dad used to say, “Too soon stupid, too late smart.” There’s truth in that.

Looking back, there are some things I know now (too late smart) that I wish I knew when I was a young mom (too soon stupid). Life is our best teacher for some of these things, because you and I learn best through experience, often called “the school of hard knocks.”

Yet if I’d taken the time to listen to others who were just a bit further down this Life road, I would have learned:

  • People are more important than things. Always.
  • There’s very little that is major.
  • Failure = learning and growth.
  • Worry less. Laugh more. A lot more.
  • Always look through the lens of wide-eyed wonder.
  • Mud pies, wiggly worms, and water from the hose aren’t as harmful as advertised.
  • A clean house doesn’t tell any more about me than that I know how to clean (or have a great cleaning lady).
  • Kids have free will just like you do and they exercise it regularly just like you do.
  • The stuff won’t make you happy. It’s just stuff.
  • Work hard but know when to play harder.
  • Your legacy is more than money, prestige, or a “name,” and can be redefined multiple times as needed.
  • One or two trustworthy, truth-telling friends are beyond valuation.
  • Authenticity beats perfection.
  • “Take time to smell the roses” is more than a catchy phrase, it helps keep other stuff in perspective.
  • Time in nature restores your soul, mind, and creativity—tap into this regularly.
  • Live without regret.
  • Doing less accomplishes more.
  • Joy and happiness are not synonymous.
  • Some rules aren’t meant to be broken. The lifelong consequences aren’t worth it.
  • Playing it safe isn’t always safe.
  • Just make the decision and move forward. Failure is better than standing still.
  • Be generous, always.
  • Say “I love you” and “please forgive me” more often than you think you should.
  • Practice gratefulness instead of criticism.
  • What you do with failure speaks louder than that failure.
  • Success reveals your true character.

So, on this day of reflecting, there is hope.

Learning is muscle development. Each day you and I practice the above lessons, we get stronger. When we apply wonder to every day we are even more on the lookout for these lessons.

Life is extra-ordinary. Never lose your wonder.

Years ago, Robert Fulghum, wrote a credo entitled All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten. It became a New York Times #1 Bestseller that reminded us that the most basic things in life are important.


I encourage you today to look at these basic things. How many of them have you learned and put into practice?  Like you, today I needed to remember that the basic things are most important.

Capture the extra-ordinary in the ordinary today.

  • Kirsten D Samuel

    I empower Christian wives to discover they are seen, loved, and heard. These women find the freedom to be who they are beyond their partner’s struggles, and find hope that there is a life worth living.

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